Dating & Courtship, 'the One'

I am going to tell two Love stories that you are really going to love! Many of my friends have pets. I am their auntie! I love them! I pet them, run around the house chasing them, I love their company. 

The first story is how Lucky found his Mom. Melinda Carver 
Finding Lucky & Changing Cleveland Browns Policy

For months, I went to animal shelters, rescue adoptions and online searches to find a fur baby.  I would find a dog or puppy at one of these events and attempt to receive papers only to find out someone else "just signed" the contract or the rescue would not respond to inquiries. On a warm Saturday morning at the end of July of 2021, I walked into the NE Ohio SPCA and went through the rows of dogs and puppies.  A large section of weeks old puppies were roped off to the public for the Dog Pound Adoption at the Cleveland Browns Training Camp (a week long event).  But in one aisle filled with older puppies and dogs, there were two 11 week old puppies.  One was a fluffy full ball that stay at the back of the cage and the other was a spotted pup full of energy - he looked like a chocolate chip cookie. He came tumbling to the front of his cage and  I instantly fell in love with his frolicking and licking my hand through the bars. He was vocal and sweet, then fell asleep with my fingers under his head. The shelter named him Lucky due to the horseshoe of spots on the top of his head.  His papers stated he was born on June 2nd, my Dad's birthday.  I had lost my Dad earlier that year.  It felt like a sign and that my Dad was helping me find my fur baby.

I went back out to the office to ask the manager for the adoption paperwork.  She came with me to the first aisle and then told me he was not for adoption as he was scheduled for the Cleveland Browns event.  I then pointed out to her that the puppies for the Browns event were at the back of the room and he was not labeled for that event.  She said sorry, that her hands were tired and that I'd have to get tickets somehow to the sold out week of the football training camp to adopt him.  The shelter used these puppy adoption events for fundraising and marketing.  No exceptions unless you went to the event and adoptions were first come, first served. I went outside in tears.  I had finally found a fur baby that I clicked with and knew was "mine" but I couldn't adopt him due to their policy and the sold out training camp.  

As I sat in my car crying, a thought flitted through my head.  My sister worked at a non-profit for years that was associated with the Browns, but had left for a new position..  I called her and through tears told her what was happened at the shelter and asked her if she still was in contact with anyone at the Browns office.  My sister told me she would call one of the executives to see what she could do.  She called me back 10 minutes later and said that the VP would give me two tickets for any of the days to get into training camp to adopt at the Dog Pound Adoption.  

I went back into the shelter to ask the manager which day Lucky was scheduled to be at training camp.  She said she had to contact the program director and would have her call me.  The program director was kind of hesitant as she "wasn't sure" when she would specifically take him.  I told her that the Browns VP would give me tickets to the sold out camp for whichever day she planned to take him, but I had to know which day to let the VP know.  I asked her to please pick a day so I could have my sister call the VP back.  She finally stated she would bring him on Monday - two days away. She also said it was first come first served.  I told her I'd be there when they opened the doors at 1:30 pm. 

My sister called the VP and I was given the two camp tickets for that Monday.  My friend Stacey, who had been helping me in my puppy search, volunteered to drive me to and from the event so I would have an easier time.  I offered the second ticket to her husband as he was a big Browns fan.  

That Monday, Stacey dropped us off at the camp gate.  We were 13th and 14th in line.  There was a snooty woman and her husband in front of us that refused to talk to us or the people in front of them.  When security let us in, I told Mike that we needed to go straight to the puppies tent before stopping anywhere else.  Of course their tent was at the other end of the field!  We raced down the rows of tents with a couple of kids passing us.  Mike beat me to the tent, found Lucky and grabbed him yelling "I got Lucky! I got Lucky!".  I marched up to the adoption table and gave the program director the adoption fee for Lucky and asked for the papers.  As I was signing the documents, the snooty woman entered the tent and started looking at the puppies.  She saw Lucky and told her husband she might want "this one".  Too bad, too sad for her, I already signed the papers and handed them to the program director. She had to tell the snooty woman that Lucky was already adopted - first come, first served.  The snooty woman had a fit!  

The shelter kept Lucky so we could go see some of the training camp.  After 30 minutes, Mike carried Lucky down the length of the field back to security (Lucky did try to grab someone's hot dog). Lots of people tried to pet him because he was so adorable.  Stacey picked us up and I brought Lucky home.  He is such a sweet baby with a big personality.  Lucky is still very vocal and affectionate.  

I also wrote a thank you card to the Browns VP that provided the tickets for me to adopt Lucky that day.  Due to everything that happened, and the shelter's policy and the always sold out camps, the Browns announced a new policy for their training camps.  If you wanted to adopt a puppy from the Dog Pound Adoption event, you could wait in the entrance line to tell security that you were their to adopt a puppy.  Security would escort you to and from the shelter's adoption tent.  No longer would people lose out on a puppy they connected with because they didn't have tickets to a sold out event.  

So Lucky, a gift to me from my Dad in heaven, with a big assist from my sister Michelle and the Browns VP, helped change the world for the better for other adoptable fur babies.  And yes, he is very spoiled and everyone says how striking he is and affectionate.  He loves to flirt with the ladies.  

Blessings, 
Melinda Carver


Maddie - The Star of the Show  -  & Kendra 
Maddie lives with Kendra. She is the prettiest kitty I know. She also loves her mommy. If you have watched precious Astrology shows you might have heard or seen Maddie. I love her!

I didn't know my soulmate could be a car, but my spirit came to life the first time with a 1998 Jeep Wrangler. So I knew how much something other than a person could expand and express my earthly experiences. 

The second time I had been laid off from a hard job with a crappy commute. I was at an all-time low, as it was a blizzard in Chicago. I wanted to cheer myself up by looking at cats. 

I spotted a gorgeous gray long hair with emerald eyes and the jeweler in me lit up. I climbed over 3-4 feet of snow to visit the shelter. The whole city was shut down, except them.

That cat was depressed, and I knew we would both be the same project. I passed on him after our interaction. And on the way out the door, I spotted a sleepy kitten with a bobtail. I swore I would never choose "baby" energy again. But I got the nudge.

I asked to interact, and she woke up, walked right into my lap, and went back to sleep. The deal was sealed. Even though there was an application on her, I knew she was MINE.

We celebrate 15 years of Adoption Anniversary this year. And she continues to be my proof that you can come back and start over from anything at anytime. 
I do a lot of readings with people who are looking for ‘the one’ or in relationship with someone who is not for their highest good, so they don’t have to feel alone. 
Kendra Lockhart

 Excerpt from The Love Book 
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Many people these days run and jump into a relationship without knowing the other person. They rush the relationship. The fire burns bright and then goes out and reality sets in. People are moving more often than settling into a place of stability. Was it lust, love or convenience? What did you like about it? What didn’t you like about it?
 
The other thing I want to point out is your ‘Honey Bun’ is probably not the Prime truck driver, Postman, milkman, Fed Ex, or UPS person. 
 
Get your butt out of your home, look nice and if anything, go speed dating, for fun! Do the things you like to do, that is where you will connect with your ‘Honey Bun’. I cannot stress this enough. Be active, have fun! 
 
For those of you who only want to meet ‘The One’, stop. ‘The One’ is You. Look within your heart, what do you love about yourself? What are you interested to discover about yourself? Most likely your ‘Honey Bun’ likes similar things you do. 
 
Dating is a way to get to know what you want and have life experiences. Having experiences through relationships gives you wisdom for the ‘life relationship’. 
 
Be present while dating, why? You are getting to know the person. What do you have in common? Is it enough to keep you interested? Honor yourself enough to pay attention to your date. How do they communicate? How do you feel in their presence? What attracts you to this person? Find out! Be present!
 
You want to be able to feel or see the ‘red flags’. If you see any ‘red flags’, leave.  What is a red flag? A red flag is an experience that makes you feel uncomfortable or afraid. 
 
My great grandmother always reminded me to have ‘taxi money’ when I went on dates, yes, I am that old. Whenever I saw a ‘red flag’, it didn’t matter if I was in the middle of the date, I excused myself to go to the ladies room. I walked out. Leave, that is self-respect, self-love. 
 
Have you experienced that? 
 
Courtship is different than dating. Courtship is the path to long term relationship. This is the part of the relationship that we learn more about the other person. We learn how to work together, communication is deeper, we share more of ourselves, we start to build a stronger foundation. This is intimacy.
 
Communication is key in all relationships. 
 
Communication helps with getting to know or understand people, their ideas and what they love to do. While building your relationship it is okay to ask questions to get to know your potential mates. By asking questions you will see how the other reacts and answers. By communicating, you can decide whether or not you and the other person have common ideas and goals.  
 
Again, I want to remind you to negotiate any serious relationships. Making sure you are being honored for yourself. Equal exchange of energy. 
 
Remember others do not think and feel the same way you do. Just because you will do or feel something a certain way doesn’t mean others will. Do not assume people will react the same way you do.  
 
Do not Assume anything about anyone. Assuming creates anxiety and upset. Assumption takes you out of presence. 
 
If you are wondering if your ‘Honey Bun’ likes or loves you, ask them. It’s okay to do that. It’s okay to know and understand how they feel. Love relationships are two sided. It is good to know what and how the other feels. Even if you don’t like what they say or the actions they take. When you get answers, you know where you stand. You are present.
 
Many of you who stay in a relationship with no growth, expecting change, is a waste of time and energy. 
 
Try marriage or couples counseling. After counseling you may find the relationship has matured as much as it can, and it is time to end it. Give yourself permission to honor yourself and your partner. 
 
Remember to practice an equal exchange of energy with all your relationships. 
 
Often times I suggest writing a list of what you want in a love partner. I knew a gal who had a notebook full of what she wanted in relationship. It was great! Think about this, as you are writing your list, what are you able to give toward the relationship as well. Relationships are about sharing your lives. Equal Exchange of Energy. 

I asked the ‘Love Goddesses’ that assist with Love. Here is Aphrodite’s advice for those who are seeking love or sex. 

Aphrodite 2/13/17 
 
Let us first say you are ‘the One’. You are ‘the one’ you are looking for. Once you realize this you stop searching and start seeing everything you have wanted is within you. When you do this your energy shifts into the oneness. Once you are in this space, you will attract others who also are in the energetic space of oneness. This is the time you will find ‘the other one’. 
 
How do you do this? How do you see you are ‘the one’? Get to know yourself. You are an individual with individual tastes. What are they? Open your heart, align with the energy of love for yourself.
 
Look at your environment, you are a reflection of your environment. What in your environment makes you feel good? What causes discomfort? Find the courage and love within yourself to change it. 
 
Take as much time as you need, to discover ‘the one’. You!
 
Honor yourself when considering potential mates. Make sure you are comfortable with them and the environment in which you spend time, if you are not there are plenty of potential mates to choose from on planet Earth. Be open to new experiences, new people, new places widening your search. 

Romance is an art, practice being romantic with yourself. This way you will know what you like romantically. Take yourself on a date. What do you want to do on a date? Start there first.
 
These are concepts for you to consider. 
 
We want to remind you that sex is not love. If you want to have sex, there are plenty of humans who want the same. Give yourself permission to discover your sexuality. Sex is not love or romantic, it is sex, lust. These acts are powerful as well. 
 
Be honest with yourself about what you want, loving relationship, sex, or both. 
 
Remember to be responsible with your body and protect your body against disease. 
 
This is loving the self. Loving the self is most important. 
 
Call upon us for assistance and guidance about finding ‘the one’ and loving yourself! We are happy to serve you!
 
Aphrodite – Goddess of Love and Beauty

Have a beautiful week! Stay safe! Keep your heart open and aligned with the energy of Love!
Auriel Grace